Refresh! Relax! Revive! Part 6:
Discreet, Chaste – Lips and skin
“That they may teach the young women …To be discreet, chaste..” (Titus 2:4,5)
Imagine that you are hiking down the Grand Canyon. It takes about an hour to get to the bottom, the heat is dry, so you don’t sweat, and can easily dehydrate. You finally get to the bottom of canyon, the Colorado River is churning and dirty because it had rained somewhere upstream. You see a stand that promises “FREE WATER”. You can choose: a bottle of pure mountain spring water, OR a plastic cup and you can kneel down and get water directly from the river. Both are water. Which would you choose? Obviously, the contained, pure water is much more useful to a thirsty hiker than the impure, dirty river water. Likewise, a controlled, pure woman is more useful to a holy God.
Continuing with our Spiritual Health Spa theme, today we continue our discussion of what the older women are to teach the younger, and we will cover “discreet” (controlled) and “chaste” (pure). These things make us useful to God, prepared to serve Him.
So, for “discreet” I chose our mouth, or lips, and for “chaste” I chose our skin.
LIPS: We put on lip moisturizers, lip gloss, and lipstick to make our mouths look attractive, but if what comes out is not attractive, it hasn’t done much good, has it? The word “discreet” means “to show prudence, modesty, and wise self-restraint, to walk circumspectly”, or sensible and controlled in speech and character. It means don’t give in to our impulses, passions, and desires, and instead yield to the Holy Spirit.
Here are some areas to be DISCREET in if we want to be more useful to God:
Speech: A discreet Christian woman does not draw attention to herself, but her speech is seasoned with salt, it ministers grace unto the hearers (Colossians 4:6), and points attention to the Lord. She doesn’t gossip, or say unedifying things to or about others, and she “speaks the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15) when needed. She doesn’t give into impulses to say the first thing that comes into her head, this should be true on Facebook, email, or texting, it is so easy to spout off, hit “send” and then regret it! But it’s too late!! Proverbs 2:11 says, “discretion shall preserve thee.” You can’t take words back, you can ask forgiveness, and you should, but wouldn’t it be better to have not said it at all.
Finances: A discreet Christian woman stays within a budget, uses self-control. She doesn’t “Tit-for-Tat” — “HE got something new, so I should get something, too!” She is grateful and content (1 Timothy 6:6-10), she doesn’t let money (or the lack thereof) control her and be the source of her feelings of joy (she doesn’t give in to the “if only” mindset).
Relationships: WARNING: Beware of Hallmark movies and Romance Novels – THEY ARE NOT REALITY! Your husband is a sinful man, and you are a sinful woman. Don’t set too high expectations on other people. Psalm 62:5 has been a great verse for me to remind me that my expectation should be only in the Lord. It is so easy to compare our husbands/parents/children to fictional characters in a book or movie – DON’T! WARNING! They are not reality! It will only lead to discontentment.
SKIN: We use all kinds of scrubs, makeup remover wipes, 5 minute pimple cream, toners, oil-free cleansers to make our skin look pure and free from blemishes. Should we not go to much greater lengths to make sure that our lives are pure and free from impurities. The word “chaste” means “pure & modest, uncontaminated”. When we look in mirror, and see something wrong with our skin, we fix it! So, when we look into the mirror of God’s Word we can measure the effectiveness of our time in the Bible by the effect it has on our behavior and attitudes, we should be gradually changing into the image of Christ (James 1:22-25). If not, something is wrong.
Here are some areas to be CHASTE in if we want to be more useful to God:
Thoughts: Have you noticed that sin always begins with our thought life? Jesus said, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34). We could take this further and say that out of the abundance of the heart the mind thinks and feels, and the body acts. Why do we do what we do? Why do we want what we want? Because we think what we think. Because of what or who we listen to. Be pure in your thoughts (Philippians 4:8 is a great passage to meditate on).
Motives/Attitudes: If we keep our thoughts captive (1 Corinthians 10:5), our motives & attitudes will stay pure. As women, it doesn’t take much for our thought lives to go crazy! Examine yourself. Be in the Word, it is a “Discerner of thoughts and intents” (Hebrews 4:12). Ask God to search your heart and show you if there is any “wicked way in me” (Psalm 139:23-24).
Clothing: If our thoughts and motives are pure, we will not want to offend anyone else or cause them to stumble (Romans 14:21). We will want to dress “which becometh a woman professing godliness”(1 Timothy 2:10). Did you know that women dress mostly to impress other women? We can cause a ‘sister’ to stumble by wearing really fancy clothes that show off our figure, especially if we have recently lost weight, causes her to sin by being envious and covetous of our clothes & body. We can cause a ‘brother’ to stumble by wearing clothes that are tight or revealing and cause him to sin by having lustful thoughts about us (that’s what “lasciviousness” is in Galatians 5:19). We are to provoke one another to love and good works (Hebrews 10:24), not to envy.
So, let’s be discreet and chaste, so that the Lord can use us. “But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour. If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work” (2 Timothy 2:20,21) As we mentioned before, “meet” means fit or suitable for our calling, like a help “meet” for our husbands in Genesis 2:18,24. So, we want to be vessels of honor meet for the Master’s use, with His help and for His glory.
~Graced and Grateful Grammy
♪ ♫ “Filled to overflowing, hearts aglow and showing Christ to those who do not know Him. Sanctified and holy, yielded to Him only, vessels for the Master’s use…” ♫ ♪ Alfred B. Smith