Refresh! Relax! Revive! Part 3

 Refresh! Relax! Revive!  Part 3 – Sober                                 IMG_4128

That they may teach the young women to be sober…” Titus 2:3

This is part 3 of my series on the Spiritual Health Spa. Together, we are learning how to Refresh, Relax, and Revive, spiritually. Part one was more of an introduction, and you can read it by clicking here. Part two is about how the older women should act as an example, it begins in the heart.

Today, we will start on the list of things the older women are to teach the younger women, and I thought it would be fun, in keeping with our “Spiritual Health Spa” theme, to assign a body area that a health spa may work on to the characteristic we are studying. So, Paul starts with “sober”, and I have chosen our face to go with that, I will explain in a minute.

First, I would like you to read through Titus 2:1-6 … I’ll wait while you read it…      Okay…   Did you notice???      Paul just told the older men to be sober, he tells the older women to be likewise – sober – and then he tells the younger women and young men to be sober. Do you think there was a problem with people not being sober??

Think about this: Have you ever been around someone who is intoxicated? Maybe you have been in that state yourself. How do people act when they are intoxicated? Make a list of those things, then make a list of the opposite of those behaviors – that’s what sober looks like. Here’s what I came up with:


Foolish, silly                                    Wise (Ps 119:98; Prov 1:7)

Can’t walk straight                         Walks with the Lord (Psalm 1)

Unconscious                                    Conscious of others (Phil 2:1-4)

Influenced by alcohol/drugs        Influenced by Holy Spirit (Eph 5:18)

Reckless                                            Serene, calm (Prov. 31:25-31)

No restraints                                    Controlled by Holy Spirit (1 Cor 9:27)

Can’t talk properly                          Speech is guarded (Col 4:6)

Out of their mind                            Sound mind (2 Tim 1:7)

Flesh controls them                       Control their flesh(2 Ti 2:22, Ro 13:14)

Unkind, hurtful                              Kind, tender (Eph 4:32, Rom 12:10)

Violent                                             Full of God’s peace (Phil 4:7)

Offensive                                         Peacable (Ro 12:18, 2 Cor 6:3)

Never satisfied                              Content (2 Tim 6:6)

Dishonest                                       Honest (Romans 13:12-14)

Unstable                                         Stable, firm (Eph 6:6)

I chose our face to be the body part that corresponds with being sober because, our face is what everyone sees, we go to great lengths to make sure it is moisturized, that blemishes and/or wrinkles are covered with make up, our features are accentuated so we look good. When we are heading somewhere, or looking at something, we face it, we seek by looking at it. So, our faces need to be looking toward the Lord, seeking His face, and humbly seeking His will, not ours. Being “sober” is obtained only by understanding the fear of the Lord and knowing His Word (meditation and resting), from having a close relationship with the LORD, from seeking His face in prayer and in His Word, and having His face shine on us.

So a sober woman’s strength comes from the LORD, He is her anchor no matter what storms life brings, she is self-controlled, seeking the Lord and His wisdom, Humble-minded, stable, sensible, wise, spirit-controlled, and she doesn’t easily lose her head! Have you ever read the Carrot, Egg, or Coffee bean story? The story goes like this:

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and the last she placed ground coffee beans.She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minute she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee into a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see?”

Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied. She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, “What’s the point, mother?”Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity… boiling water – but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after being through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

Which are you?” she asked the daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”


I fear too often I am the carrot or the egg, but with God’s help I hope to be more coffee-like — I like coffee! Maybe that will help me!  (Perhaps that is why they offer coffee to “sober-up” people who are intoxicated?)

I hope this has been an encouragement to you to be sober, and to teach others by your example. Next time we will look at loving our husbands.

~Graced and Grateful Grammy

Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?


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