Refresh! Relax! Revive!Part 2 – Begins in the Heart
“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things” Titus 2:3
This is part 2 of my series on the Spiritual Health Spa. Together, we are learning how to Refresh, Relax, and Revive, spiritually. Part one was more of an introduction, and you can read it by clicking here.
A visit to a health spa may begin by being asked about your general health: Your heart, diet, blood pressure, cholesterol, sugar levels, if you have any health issues, etc.. They want to see what your health is like on the inside before they work on the outside, sometimes people can appear very healthy, but inside they are not. Today we are going to study the older women or, aged women, as Paul puts it. Paul told the older women to teach the younger women “sound doctrine”, they are to lead by example what “behaviour as becometh holiness” looks like. He wants to make sure that we are godly on the inside, in our hearts, and not just making a show of it on the outside. So, FIRST, he tells the older women how they should act because we cannot teach something we are not doing ourselves. As my husband says in his Sunday School class: “Do as I say, don’t do as I do – DON’T WORK!” That’s what is called “hypocrisy”. Remember, we are ALL examples! You have to be different to make a difference.
Remember, a Health spa‘s goal is to make you look “fabulous”. They may have photos or books for you to look at to get ideas of hairstyles, nails, makeup, etc. with pictures of what “fabulous” looks like. Well, in our Spiritual Health Spa, God’s goal for you is to make you look “glorious” or Christ-like (Phil 3:21), and God’s Word gives us a picture of what “glorious” woman looks like:
First, let’s look at “behavior as becometh holiness”: The word “Holy” means dedicated or devoted to the service of God, set apart, and different from others. It begins with the heart. The older women are to be Spirit-controlled and mature in their walk with the Lord, they are to love the Lord with all their heart, mind, and soul (Matthew 22:37). Take a moment and think about why you love God, write it down in your journal, and meditate on them. He is true, honest, just, pure, lovely, virtuous, and praiseworthy – all those things we find in Philippians 4:8. So, what do we tend to think about, or worry about? Appearance & dress, acceptance, financial security, how others see you, your performance in tasks, even at Church, completing your agenda. What we worry about shows what is important to us. What we spend our resources (time, money, energy) on also reveals our priorities – leisure, recreation, work, family, or God’s work– missions, ministries, tithes & offerings? Also, our anger indicates what is important to us: What makes you angry? We get angry when something we value highly is taken away – control, reputation, possessions, position, health, rights, time. Take some time to write in your journal the things you worry about, the things you spend your resources on, and the things that make you angry – what do they reveal about your priorities? Do you need to make some changes?
Next, “not false accusers”: A godly woman does not speak badly of others, she loves God, and she love others. This is simple, but complex, I could do a whole devotion on the tongue, and I probably will one day because I am constantly being convicted in this area. The Bible is clear that God hates lying and gossip, and we are to be known by our love for one another (John 13:35), not the tales we tell about them.
Then, he says “not given to much wine”– I know this can be a controversial subject among Christians, my personal conviction is that Christians should not partake in any kind of alcohol consumption because it causes us to lose our self-control, and allows us to be “under the influence” of something that is definitely NOT the Holy Spirit (see Ephesians 5:18). So, I interpret this passage as saying that a godly woman does not need anything (alcohol, drugs, the approval of others especially via social media) to give her satisfaction and contentment besides the LORD, and she is not to be self-indulgent.
Finally, Paul says that the older women are to be “teachers of good things.” If a woman is living a life “as becometh holiness,” putting the Lord Jesus Christ first in her life, meditating on Him, loving Him and others, and not allowing anything to distract her, she will find that she is content and satisfied. She will be so thankful to the Lord for the many blessings He has given her, that she will naturally want others to “taste and see that the Lord is good.” (Psalm 34:8), she will want to teach the good things that she has learned to other women. When you know about something really GOOD, you want to share it with others!
Now, all of this can only be done with God’s Holy Spirit working in and through us, by the first 2 steps of our spiritual health spa: “Cleansing” (salvation or restoring our joy) and “Relaxing” (giving the Lord full control of our lives daily –NOT worrying, but placing myself in His capable hands, meditating on His Word). We won’t be perfect, but it is possible to keep growing more Christ-like!!
Remember, ladies, YOU ARE LOVED – God Loved us so much that He gave the most precious thing He has – His Son –to humble Himself, allow Himself to be humiliated and crucified – FOR YOU!! He wants each one of us to live a life of victory over sin – defeat, discouragement, and depression. He wants us “be in behaviour as becometh holiness … teachers of good things”. Let’s do it with His help, and tell others about our Spiritual Health Spa!
Next week we will start looking at what the older women are to teach the younger women…
Graced and Grateful Grammy
A healthy glow on the outside reflects a healthy glow on the inside!