Refresh! Relax! Revive! Part 1


The aged women likewise, that they be Refresh Relax Revivein behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5

Wouldn’t you love to go to a health spa? Maybe you have had the privilege of going to one. They promise to “Refresh, Relax, and Revive” you. Their goal is to send you out of there looking fabulous so you make their spa look good! You may look at some pictures first as examples of how you want to look when you walk out of there. The spa staff begins to Refresh you by the humbling and sometimes painful process of cleansing that reveals all those things you were trying to cover up they use cleansing treatments, hair washing, they take off nail polish (fingers and toes), cut your hair, remove hair etc. Basically, they get rid of dirt and dead stuff!! Have you, like me, been embarrassed by all the ‘crud’ the manicurist picks out from under your toenails?! Next comes the Relax part (you need it after the embarrassing ‘reveals’ from the cleansing!) – massage is a matter of placing yourself in the masseuse’s capable hands, allowing yourself to “rest” and get apart from the stresses of everyday life. Some health spas offer meditation rooms where you can rid your mind of negative thoughts and fill your mind with positive thoughts. Finally, the spa staff will Revive you externally with makeup, your hair is styled, your nails are polished, your skin is looking smooth and pure, and you walk out looking and feeling fabulous! Unfortunately, it doesn’t last long though, because if you are a mom, sticky fingers get in your hair, your makeup gets smeared, nails get chipped from washing dishes and cleaning, and stress and fatigue soon start showing on your face once you get back to ‘reality’.

In comparison, God offers us a daily “spiritual health spa”, but His “Refresh! Relax! and Revive!” will last for eternity, and it will help us meet God’s goal for us, which is for us to look “glorious”, or Christ-like (Romans 8:29), so that He gets the glory. This devotion is the first in a series of 8 on the above Titus 2 passage, with the word picture of a Spiritual Health Spa, we will look at how we as ladies can become more Christlike in the areas listed in the above passage, and I will relate each area to a “body area” that a physical health spa may work on. Just as the health spa had pictures of what fabulous looks like, God’s Word has a picture of how “glorious” looks to Him – read Titus 2:3-5 above for a description of how a godly woman should behave.

God’s Spiritual Health Spa also begins with the humbling and sometimes painful process of cleansing with the Truth of God’s Word (Psalm 119:9), and it is as simple as A, B, C: Admitting our sinful ways—we are “dirty” (Rom 3:23) our most vital need is to have that sin problem taken care of because God cannot allow sin in His presence, here and now, or in Heaven; Believing Who Christ is and what He has done for us – the only way to be cleansed from sin is to trust in what the LORD Jesus Christ did for us when He died on the cross in our place to pay the price due for our sins (Rom 5:8, Rom 6:23, 1 Cor 15:3,4), He was buried, and then He rose again victoriously; and Choosing to place our trust in Him for our eternal destination as well as for daily victory over sin. If you have already asked Him to be your Savior, then maybe you need Restoration – maybe you are already saved., but not walking with the Lord as you once did. Maybe some root of bitterness (Heb 12:15) has crept in – envy, disappointment, anger, pride, anxiety, despair. Maybe some of those “SELF” words have sneaked into your life: Self-pity, self-centered, self-indulgence, self-righteousness, self-will, in other words SELFISHNESS!!! Your JOY has been stolen and you are not the joyful Christian you once were. The answer is the same – the ABC of the Gospel: Admit – confess that you have sinned by not putting God and His commandments central in your life, that you have been “self-centered”, that you have “wandered” as we are prone to do. Believe – that Jesus will give you the victory over sin, and you don’t have to obey your flesh anymore. God’s grace that kept you out of eternal spiritual death can also keep you from daily spiritual defeat. Choose – to turn to God for help, to learn more about Him and draw closer to Him in difficult times, remembering that relief from the trial is NOT the most important thing (James 1:2,3).

After God has refreshed you through His word, then comes relaxation – placing ourselves in God’s capable hands, not worrying (Phil 4:7), but trusting in Him to work all things together for our good and His glory (Rom 8:28), and meditating on His Word, the positive Truth! We all know how to meditate – worrying is meditating on the wrong things! We can enter our prayer closets and meditate on the truth of God’s Word and give our troubles to the only One Who can do something about them.

Finally comes the reviving: God’s purpose for us is to make us look “glorious” – or Christlike. So, by reading God’s Word, we can learn about Christ and Who He is, and with the Holy Spirit’s help, we grow to be more like Him each day. In Titus 2, we are told how Christlike people act, all for God’s glory, so His name is not blasphemed. Paul did not tell Titus (the Pastor) to teach these things to the younger women, he told the older women to teach the younger women “sound doctrine”. You know we are all BOTH older AND younger women – there is always someone younger (physical age or spiritual maturity) watching you, and there is always someone older (age or maturity) that you can look to and learn from. SO, first, he tells the older women how they should act – we cannot teach something we are not doing ourselves. Then he tells them what they are to teach the younger women. Note: also, it is not older wives and mothers and what they are to teach the young wives and mothers, but older women and young women in general. I hope you will join me as we look into these areas that the older women are to teach the younger women, and that we can all Refresh, Relax, and Revivetogether.

~Graced and Grateful Grammy

God’s Health Spa is for our good and His glory